Homeschool Comparison: Leave it at the Fence

The following is a post from contributing writer Stef.

I truly believe a homeschool mother’s enemy is comparison.  There is nothing worse than looking over the proverbial “fence” and seeing better crafts, more well behaved kids, co-op awards, and top-shelf curriculum.

We can get lost in this trap and forget what God has given us.

The parable of the ten talents in Matthew 25:14-30 is a great learning lesson for the homeschool mom suffering from comparison.

We know one servant was given 5 talents, another 2 talents, and the last 1 talent.  The text tells us that two servants went out at once and gained more.  The third servant, out of fear, dug a hole in the ground and did nothing.

Homeschool mom, are you going out “at once” and being obedient with the gift you’ve received?  Your children, your talent, your time?

Nowhere are we informed that the servant with only 2 stood around complaining he didn’t have more.  He is not caught looking over the fence comparing.  They were given what they had according to their ability.  Life, homeschool, children – we are not playing Monopoly and starting at the same place with the same bank.

God has given you what you have according to your ability.  If we truly believe “every good and perfect gift is from above” James 1:17 – God has given you what He wants you to have.  Be obedient with it.  Show gratitude.

You and I are not supposed to compete with the servant (homeschooler) who has more.  I long to hear “well done good and faithful servant.”  (Matthew 25:23) Not just with my service and church obligations, but in our homeschool as well.

Let’s leave the homeschool comparison at the fence!

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  1. While I’m only doing the preschool thing with my oldest son right now, I don’t yet consider myself to be a homeschooling mom yet. In recent months I have been praying over whether homeschooling would be the right thing for my son next year and comparing what I currently do with other moms whether homeschooling or not. This is exactly what I needed to hear/read! Thank you so much!

  2. Thanks for a well worded post. If we can get away from homeschool comparisons, I believe that greatly lifts part of the stress burden we may feel during the homeschooling day.

  3. You should drop the homeschool angle and re-write this simply to mothers/parents. We all have the temptation to compare what we are doing regardless of our schooling choice.

    I truly believe a mother’s enemy is comparison.

  4. Yes, but what if your fence is better than mine? ;0) Just kidding. Thank you for this post. I always need to hear this.

  5. Thank you for the great reminder and encouragement to focus on keeping my focus on doing my creative best with what I’ve been entrusted with vs. peeking over at someone else’s life and slinking away defeated. I appreciated your wise words!

  6. Wonderfully said, and so true. I have been homeschooling for 6 years now and I still find myself comparing. Even though I know we are doing what works great for us I still catch myself looking ever that fence and start to question and compare. I need to remember that I’m doing what God has called me to do NOT what he’s called others to do. Great post!

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