I have really enjoyed reading all the comments on my LegalZoom post. I realized that one of the main reasons people have put off making a will is that they do not know who will take care of their children. What a hard decision!
For those who would like to discuss it further, share opinions or get advice, I opened a BlogFrog thread regarding guardianship. Feel free to hop on over and talk about it!
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Yes, the kiddos issue is holding us back as well. Having 6 is tough enough, but then the special needs involved, & no one who can or will or should take them… I just pray a lot LOL…
It is a hard decision. For us, the hard part is that we are the only members of our faith on either side and it is important to us that our children are raised knowing where we come from, where we are going, and that they are children of a loving Heavenly Father. Since that wont happen to the extent we would like if we die soon, we a)pray that Heavenly Father doesn’t call both of us home soon and b)we have to look at who we are closest to and who we trust completely. My family is a bit spastic or not old enough…and my husbands is either too old or…well…again…spastic. lol. We have settled on his sister and brother-in-law and I feel really good about it, thankfully.
Still praying on that specifically, though.
We have considered that one too. We have amazing friends we would feel comfortable with raising our girls. I guess we figured we felt good about my SIL so we stopped there…but the back-ups are friends. I think people forget that it doesnt have to be family. I’m glad you brought that up.
Aspects of the decision were made easier for me – my brother and sister both live overseas, in different countries so my husband and I both agreed we wouldn’t want the children to have to cope with moving overseas as well as losing us. We had good friends who were philosophically very similar to us and they agreed to be the children’s guardians. Even when we divorced we still agreed these same friends should stay guardians, should the need arise.