The following is a post from contributing writer Stef.
This August we are celebrating 10yrs of marriage!
My husband and I believe “date night” is very important for a marriage to remain strong. I believe that being home all day with our children, homeschool moms particularly enjoy a date night. Sadly … it’s not always so easy to make date night happen.
We live 2 hours away from the closest family member. High school girls are social butterflies and not usually available on Friday/Saturday nights. High school girls become college girls and move away. College girls graduate and start “real jobs.” Plus, we can’t always afford a nice dinner, movie, and sitter crammed into four hours.
And let’s just be real — someone usually ends up with a snotty nose the morning of date night.
After a few months of failed attempts we realized date night wasn’t about a movie. Date night wasn’t about a fancy dinner. So, we got a little creative to make the homeschool mom’s date night a success.
- we wore out the boys all day in order to put them to bed at 8pm. (I realize homeschool = no bedtime to some families, but honestly your marriage is worth an early bed time).
- we purchased a few of our favorite things: bottle of wine, cheese, crackers, humus, apples, and grapes.
- we lit some candles around our fireplace and turned on some music.
- we left our phones, laptops, etc. in another room.
- we didn’t talk about our children, homeschool, gripes, or work – we talked to each other about each other.
- we laughed.
Homeschool moms date night isn’t about pitching the new curriculum on our wish list, or even discussing bad behavior during a science lesson. I didn’t even talk about my blog! It’s about reconnecting with your spouse – the two of you right where you are – because one day it will be just the two of you again.
A few years ago I wasn’t interested in sitting on our ratty old sofa, and when the weather was just perfect we’d sit outside in lawn chairs star gazing. When our boys were smaller and napping after lunch we’d spend our own afternoon napping in the hammock.
We became flexible with our definition of date night rather than discouraged we weren’t out on the town.
How are you making a homeschool mom’s date night work for you?